"A good day or a bad one?"- The darker side!

* continuation of the earlier post!

Even after deciding to be happy with the fact that I lost the phone, being totally fine with this fact, I moved. But, people kept asking, where's your phone? Why is it switched off? Why don't you get it repaired? How careless of you! Don't you even know how to handle an electronic gadget? When will you get it back?

Its totally fine, for no one knows how much you cared, how you worked to buy it, how attached you were, why you aren't using a new phone. Its fine. No matter where you go, how high you reach, how much good you do, how good you behave, you'll always have 'people'. They'll always have tricks to make you feel bad, make you feel like a victim, to keep you depressed. So, instead of feeling all this, escape or prevent it by other means. Like, I posted "Phone wanted to swim, would be dead for a few days". I kept saying, I've given it to Sony care, might get repaired, in case repairing costs are high, wouldn't get it repaired. What you need to do is, just accept the fact, embrace it. There's no point in getting depressed. Instead, use that situation to build a future, I'm thinking of getting a waterproof phone. I'm thinking of going out on some treks without gadgets. It'll be all the more adventurous! No gmaps, no Nokia maps! Nothing to route, nothing to help! Wouldn't that be fun?

So, there was this part of me, who wanted to be happy! Wanted to live! Wanted to enjoy! I lived, without a cell phone, for 7 days! No whatsapp! Used fb over PC for limited time! Accessed gmail over colleagues' cellphones. Then, got my old cell. Those 7 days were even more adventurous!

Try it out! A week without a phone, you'll discover yourself more, for it'll be just you with yourself. No pings, mails, messages, calls! Sort of silence!

Enjoy life, be happy!! Don't let others steal your happiness, your smile, and don't even steal someone of the joy they deserve!! Lets make world a better place to live!!

A good day or a bad one?

It was a cloudy day- a weekend we had thought for an outing. Like most of the other typical outings, this too had many people dropping out at the last moment. So, we began, just four of us, towards our destination- Lonavala.

In my car, we left on that day, with no clear intentions of which places to visit, but 'getting wet enough and enjoying monsoon' were the major motives. After all, six working days make life too boring!! So, on our way through Mumbai-Pune old highway, we started. Google suggested first waterfall was at Kune, before Lonavala. So, we left the road, and changed our destination to Kune. How ever, soon we realized it was inaccessible. On the same road, ahead was a famous trekking destination Rajmachi fort. We aligned ourselves towards Rajmachi. A long trek!! Spent a fabulous time walking through dense forest, with very little human intervention. It was an awesome outing. Unforgettable. I had never seen such beautiful places!! Many waterfalls on the way, a few people enjoying biking on muddy patches, a group doing rappelling. The day was superb. We walked and walked. Several hours. Our legs were tired, but that good feeling kept our legs from stopping. Almost 8 hours of walking, and we still loved that place. I didn't want to return. But, I had to, for others wanted to come back and resume their jobs!! So we descended. Like a normal middle class family, I too received a call from home to ask about my returning plans, for which I removed my cell phone from water resistant cover. Unfortunately, I dropped it in water. I picked it up instantly, it was wet. I wiped. In a hurry to removed back cover, unfortunately broke its switch on/off button. It couldn't be switched off. Also, being a higher end phone, battery wasn't removable. There it was, still on, with a few drops of water inside. Felt helpless. It was still working, but, within no time, started restarting. I remained helpless. At that instant, remember one person's words.

"Suppose you go to a temple, remove shoes outside, someone else takes those away, and you have to return bare-feet, take it positively, that the person who took it needed it more than you did. Similarly, if you ever lose something else which was valuable to you, and get disturbed for a while, where 'a while' might be few hours or few days or few months or even longer durations, after that 'while' you'll realize that being that disturbed was totally pointless."

Now, that you understand being disturbed was wrong, causes further depression. Thus, you end up in a 'being sad' loop. No escape. Also, you start remembering all the negative things which happened to you. Negativity attracts more negative thoughts. So, better, at the instant you lose that thing which causes sadness, accept that you lost it at once, being depressed or feeling sad won't earn you anything, rather, would destroy the possibilities of earning, being happy, living.....

So, at that instant, I decided to be fine enough with the fact that I lost a new cell phone, that I would be getting a new again, for that was a 'thing' which served me, and things are bound to get lost, get broken, stop working, I felt totally fine.

Although, I could do this with cell phone, needless to mention, its not always possible to be so optimistic. Its almost an year after college, an year after a serious relationship, an year after great friendship, but I never moved on. But I could easily do it with a seriously costly hard earned phone.

Easier said than done. Try it. It'll help you be happy, be more lively, be generous, be normal in extreme circumstances.

So, shall I call that day a bad one for losing a cell phone? Or shall I call it a good one, for I had the privilege to live, to be free, to enjoy, to talk to people I wanted to, to drive, to eat, .....endless privileges, endless number of things I should be grateful to....

I would call it a good, rather, a great day! An awesome day! A day I look back and feel grateful for everything that happened!! Its upto you to judge it as a good or a bad one! Your feelings are upto you, you can decide to be happy or to be sad, you are the owner of yourself, so decide what you want to be!!

Have a happy life!!

--There's a saying,

The advices you give to others, are the ones you need the most!!

*Just kidding!! Keep reading! :-)